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The Coaching Academy Blog - 07 May 2025
This month is Mental Health Awareness Month which serves as a powerful reminder that taking care of our minds is just as important as caring for our bodies. In this blog, Dr. Rebecca Kimberley, a Clinical Psychologist, Psychotherapist, Coach, and award-winning Coaching Academy graduate, explores why emotional fitness could be the missing key not only to personal transformation but also to thriving in your coaching practice. Read on to discover how nurturing your emotional fitness can unlock your full potential and inspire those you coach.
Emotional fitness is the ability to understand, manage, and express your emotions in a healthy and constructive way—especially during stress, change, or challenge. It’s like mental or emotional “muscle”—something you can build over time to increase your resilience, self-awareness, and capacity to navigate life’s ups and downs.
Just as physical fitness helps you handle physical demands; emotional fitness helps you handle emotional and relational demands with more strength, flexibility, and clarity.
1. Understand Emotional Fitness as a Skill, not a Trait
People often believe emotional resilience is something you’re born with. In reality, it’s a skill that can be trained. Emotional fitness involves self-awareness, regulation, empathy, and the ability to stay grounded in stressful situations. As a coach, developing this muscle within yourself - and teaching it to your clients - can create deeper, more transformative conversations.
2. Practice Micro-Moments of Awareness
You don’t need an hour of meditation daily to build emotional fitness. Try "micro-check-ins" throughout the day: “What am I feeling?” “Where is that showing up in my body?” “What do I need right now?” These 60-second moments build emotional literacy and strengthen the brain’s regulation systems over time.
3. Use the "Name It to Tame It" Technique
Neuroscience shows that naming emotions reduces their intensity. Research shows that labelling emotions activates the brain’s prefrontal cortex - the area responsible for logic and regulation - while reducing activity in the amygdala, the brain’s emotional alarm system. By putting feelings into words, we help the brain shift from reactive mode to reflective mode, making it easier to manage intense emotions with greater clarity and control. Encourage clients to be specific: instead of saying “I feel bad,” try “I feel ashamed because I didn’t follow through.” This simple act calms the emotional brain and opens up space for self-compassion and problem-solving.
4. Balance Doing with Being
In personal development, there’s often a focus on goals and action. But overdoing can be a sign of emotional avoidance. Emotional fitness requires time for reflection, stillness, and self-connection. Build space into your own life - and your coaching sessions - for these slower, deeper moments.
5. Be Brave Enough to Model Vulnerability
Coaches can feel pressure to have it all together. But modelling emotional honesty (in a boundaried way) can be profoundly inspiring. Whether it’s sharing how you navigated burnout or how you manage imposter feelings, your authenticity gives others permission to be human too.
Remember: Emotional Fitness is Not About Always Feeling Good
It’s about feeling everything - with awareness and compassion. It’s about being able to hold joy and grief, success and self-doubt, all in the same breath. That’s the real mark of emotional maturity. And it’s what sets extraordinary coaches apart.
We often label emotions like anxiety or sadness as "bad" or something to avoid. But emotions are messengers. Instead of resisting discomfort, get curious about what you are experiencing. Ask yourself, what is this emotion trying to tell me? Helping clients sit with and decode their emotional experiences leads to growth long-term - not avoidance, which is only ‘helpful’ in the short-term.
Sitting with difficulty is a skill at the heart of emotional fitness. It means staying present with uncomfortable emotions - like anxiety, frustration, or grief- without rushing to numb them, avoid them, or fix them. Instead of pushing the discomfort away, we make space for it, allowing ourselves (or our clients) to feel it fully and with compassion. This practice helps build tolerance, insight, and resilience. Over time, sitting with difficulty teaches us that we can survive emotional pain - and even learn from it- rather than fear or suppress it. It’s in these moments of stillness with discomfort that deep personal growth often begins.
In conclusion, emotional fitness is not just a personal wellness tool - it’s a professional superpower. As coaches, we hold space for others to grow, stretch, and transform. But to do this well, we must also nurture our inner world. By investing in our emotional health, we model what it means to be whole - and help others become the same.
About Author
Dr Rebecca Kimberley is a Clinical Psychologist, Psychotherapist, and Coach passionate about making mental health part of everyday conversation. With a warm, relatable approach, she helps people understand themselves more deeply and build emotionally healthier lives. She believes that mental health isn't just something we talk about in crisis - it's something we can actively nurture every day.
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