The pandemic we're facing has changed the lives of us all and this may cause many to feel anxious, sad, worried and experience a wide range of negative emotions. As part of our Mastery Series, Confidence Coach and TCA Trainer Pam Lidford is sharing three techniques that help her face anxiety, they might work for you too.
I hope you and your loved ones continue to be well and healthy in this new reality. As I write, I think about many around the world who are dealing with similar issues. It doesn’t matter whether you’re rich or poor, famous or not, Covid-19 has impacted us all socially.
I wonder how you are managing. Some people tell me they are busy others bored, some are feeling ok, others experiencing fear and anxiety, which is what today’s mail is all about.
I was recently listening to a Ted talk by Lucy Hone, a resilience expert, she asked her audience “to stand up if they had ever…..” then she listed things like, lost a job, been rejected, had your heartbroken, had fertility problems, got divorced, been an addict, had a loved one pass away, plus many more painful experiences you and I may have experienced. “Adversity” she said, “doesn’t discriminate, if you’re alive you will have to deal with tough times”.
I believe that’s true, most people I know, including myself, have experienced adversity in all sorts of ways, and when it hits, it smashes everything we thought we knew and understood to be real, to smithereens and at that time we can lose ourselves to fear, anxiety and panic.
At those times logic and reasoning can fly out the window, we just want things to go back to how they were.
Here, Tina shares her experience from a few weeks ago. She told me she found it cathartic to journal her feelings.
“No price is too high to pay for the privilege of owning yourself.” - Nietzsche
This week I’ve had friends and clients share they’ve experienced anxiety about our current situation, some severely others mildly.
When I was young, anxiety and I were best mates, we hung out a lot together until I learnt mental and physical techniques to help me reduce it and since then I’ve managed anxiety really well.
So it caught me by surprise when I had a mini attack a few days ago. It wasn’t conscious, it just crept up on me.
I felt that familiar feeling start to well up, a pain in my chest, an emotional surge, a desire to cry, a jitteriness, a need to do something – but what? I didn’t like it, I didn’t want it, so I decided to get back in touch with ‘owning myself’ and interrupted it fast with techniques
I know they work for me and I want to share a few with you in case they may help.
Thought Field Therapy is my go-to, it is part of energy psychology and interrupts the emotional state by tapping on specific points on the hands and body to calm it.
It really works for me and after two minutes of tapping, I felt better. There are lots of online videos showing the procedure, or if you want to know more or experience a session, get in touch with me.
After calming myself, I played a dance song that makes me feel good.
Thirdly, I found one or two short positive youTube videos to watch. Doing so reminded me that I have choice over how I feel and my state continued to improve.
I enjoyed all three activities. Tapping and the song could have been enough, timewise those two took five minutes to do, but as I currently have a little more time on my hands than usual, the videos made the experience even more enjoyable and only took up 10 – 15 minutes extra.
The anxiety went away and it hasn’t returned. But if it does, it’s ok, I know the above works.
In case you’re not sure here are some tips:
• Feel free to try any or all of my top three
Remember you’re not alone, the world is with you, we’ve got each other’s backs. Human nature is amazing, we will find a way through together. We have a choice to be mental leaders or victims of our own minds - the collective consciousness really matters right now.
• Do the breathing exercise from one of my earlier blog posts:, think of something or someone you love and then breathe in for a count of five and out for a count of five. Do this five times.
Repeat as often as you need to, it really works at reducing anxiety
• Become aware of what you select to focus on and where you place your attention.
If you notice it makes you feel bad - say NO, I’m not giving you my attention and energy! Then tap, or dance, or watch something positive.
• Lucy Hone says ask yourself: “is this thought (or action) helping or harming me right now?”
If it’s harming you, stop it, focus on what would help instead. If you can take action do so.
• Watch STOP IT, it says it all.
Let me know what other techniques you find helpful when dealing with anxiety. By sharing, we can move forward together, united.
Wishing you a healthy and productive week ahead where it’s ok to experience whatever emotions come up without allowing them to own you.
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