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Let go of the negatives; Let the good times roll

Posted 2271 Days Ago in: Personal Success, Coaching Articles


Sallee is passionate about sharing her knowledge and experiences to benefit, develop and 'evolve' others. A Business Advisor, Troubleshooter and Mentor.

Sallee is passionate about sharing her knowledge and experiences to benefit, develop and 'evolve' others. A Business Advisor, Troubleshooter and Mentor.

“The thing that is holding you back is the thought that something is holding you back”

Have you ever felt as though something is holding you back but you’re not sure what? I know I have and when looking for a solution I realised I was holding onto negative energy and had been for years without being conscious of the fact I was doing so. Some of this unwanted energy was released simply by me becoming aware of it but for me personally, some took a lot more work. I was determined to release it and although it still requires conscious awareness and a good dose of mindfulness to stop old habits repeating themselves, I endeavour to live my life without boundaries and with clean and positive energy.

We all have negative energy buried deep within us. On a subtle, mostly subconscious level, that bad energy can take a toll on everything we do. At the very least it is occupying space that could be filled with positive and empowering energy. Initially I tried to almost exclusively focus on the positive and neglected the toxic negative residue that had accumulated over time because I didn’t understand the implications of not dealing with it.

Throughout the course of our lives, we’ve all had difficult experiences that were painful to deal with. In addition to the more obvious experiences there can be little things we do every day which top up our negative energy reserves and finding a way to let go of those habits has lasting benefits.

Possibilities may include viewing life through negative eyes, being judgemental and assigning blame. Given that our perception creates our view of reality, this can amplify the negative and reduce the positive. On an emotional level we will generate and store that negative energy and it will accumulate and destroy the quality of our life.

A lesson I learnt the hard way after the removal of a huge but benign thyroid tumour two years ago… The thyroid is a butterfly shaped gland at the base of the throat – it is the body’s regulator and it controls how quickly the body uses energy. After my surgery and whilst in recovery I was reading ‘Change Your Words, Change Your World’ by Andrea Gardner where I learned that her thyroid tumour had been cured purely through the power of the mind and the spoken word. This prompted me to research the ways and places in which our bodies store emotional energy. I discovered that problems in the throat are associated with anger and not standing up for our rights along with swallowed anger and stifled creativity. With my turbulent and abusive childhood, all of this made perfect sense to me. It was too late for me to address my tumour given that this information came to light several hours after my surgeon had removed 75% of my thyroid but it gave me invaluable insight into cause and effect, resulting in me increasing my self-awareness and listening more carefully to what my body was telling me, not waiting for it to start screaming out for my attention before I took the time to address emotional and energetic imbalances.

One of the best ways to empower ourselves is to simply accept responsibility and realise that holding on to negative feelings of any kind is like drinking poison. We all have pleasant and not so pleasant experiences. If we collect the memories and feelings attached to unpleasant experiences they will accumulate and eventually dominate our perception. If it was unpleasant – acknowledge it, let it go and move on. Other behaviours which fuel our negative energy reserves can include making comparisons, people pleasing and playing the victim Life is not a contest with other people, we’re all completely different so any comparison is just an irrelevant mind game. No matter who you are, some people will like you and some will not; some will agree with you and some will disagree. By allowing a negative and limiting mindset you may attract potentially crippling side effects.

Accepting personal responsibility for your life is empowering because it puts you in control… Let go of the things which don’t serve you well and be the best version of yourself you can be.

Recognising the value of letting go of negative energy doesn’t help much if we don’t have the right skills to actually do it. In today’s interconnected world, there are many options and tools available whether it’s through coaching, NLP, DNA or life activation, meditation, yoga, Tai Chi, the internet, YouTube videos, forums, therapists… the list goes on. If you are unable to fully address this on your own, go and explore your options and find something that works for you.

Mastering the energy management in your own life is truly transformational and will help you create the life you really want but never underestimate both the power and damaging effects of negative energy nor the empowering benefits of letting go…

“Don’t chase love, fame or success. Become the best version of yourself and those things will chase you”



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