I've often noticed that the driving force behind indecisiveness usually stems from a fear of being disliked, criticised or failing. Some may find it more comfortable to stay in the 'safety zone' than choose to rock the boat with change.
I’ve often noticed that the driving force behind indecisiveness usually stems from a fear of being disliked, criticised or failing. Some may find it more comfortable to stay in the ‘safety zone’ than choose to rock the boat with change.
Sadly, choosing not to make decisions can keep you stuck from moving your life in the direction you want it to. If you struggle to make decisions, below are 5 ways to be more decisive so that you can go after what you want:
1. Find Your Voice
Being decisive means having clarity around what your values are, and what you want. When you dig deep and get clarity on your unique values, you learn to connect with your inner voice and trust your decisions. To connect with your values ask yourself the following questions:
What 3 things are most important to me?
E.g. Security - living in a stable environment, Status - gaining the respect of others, Personal growth - feeling I am advancing and progressing through life .
If I could wave a magic wand what would my life look like?
What area of my life would I like to improve?
When you connect with your inner voice you’re more likely to make choices which are in alignment with your truth which can make the decision process much easier.
2. Make failure your friend
Often a fear of failure can prevent many from even getting started. Some of the greatest success stories such as Richard Branson, Henry Ford and J.K Rowling have routinely encountered failure on their way to success, instead of allowing failure to stop them they learnt how to make friends with failure by choosing to take their ‘failures’ as lessons in what don’t work. Learning to reframe the thought of failure with supportive statements and questions such as ‘there is no such thing as failure, only feedback’ or ‘what can I learn from this experience’ can help you to feel more confident in taking action instead of choosing to shy away from decision-making out of a fear of failing.
3. Set deadlines
How often have you found yourself using the word someday? ‘Someday I’ll learn a new language, someday I’ll travel, and someday I’ll pursue my dream career’. Someday is often a habit of dreaming about your desires without taking action. If you have a goal that you would like to achieve or a dream that you would like to pursue start putting deadlines on your ideas. Setting realistic, achievable deadlines motivates you to remain accountable with your decisions and action steps. Some questions which can help you to get started with your goals are:
What is my goal?
What date will i achieve it by?
What steps will i take to move me one step closer to my goal this week?
Exercise is a great way to keep your feelings balanced so that you can think with a clear head. Some of the most successful people I know maintain a regular fitness regime which assists them with their decision making.
Maybe you could do a workout at the gym, go for long walks in the park, take up yoga, or go for a morning run. When you work out, you put yourself in the best position to make sound decisions.
5. Reward yourself
Even the smallest step forwards deserve to be recognised. Often many of us can forget to cheer ourselves on but it is vital to acknowledge and celebrate the positive changes and progress we make, our actions deserve to be rewarded. The next time you step out of your comfort zone and do things differently, give yourself a pat on the back and celebrate for having the courage to do so.
When you choose to make decisions you take responsibility for your life and reclaim your power to steer your ship in whichever direction you choose. Ultimately, only you will ever know what the right choices are for you, the power to get what you want rests in your decisions. Which tip resonated with you most? I’d love to know, let me know in the comments below.
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