Self-confidence is the ability to trust in your abilities, capacities and judgments. The power of this confidence is that it creates a firm belief that you're able to successfully face life's challenges and demands.
Everybody has times when they struggle with low self-confidence and increased self-doubt. However, self-confidence is a skill that can be practised and mastered by anyone- and it’s a skill that can transform your life.
Building your confidence is especially important in order to increase your resilience so you can be confident that you can face anything life throws at you.
These 5 tips can help you transform your self-confidence today. While they might seem simple, if you’re able to implement them into your daily routine, you will master the skill of self-confidence.
1. Question your inner critic
We are often our own worst critic and some of the harshest criticisms are born from our deepest insecurities.
If you are struggling with low self-confidence there is a chance that your inner critic has become overactive and inaccurate. Strategies like Cognitive Restructuring, which is often used in Cognitive Behavioural Therapy, allows you to challenge and question your inner critic and reframe the way you are talking to yourself.
By asking yourself questions like “what evidence is there that I am successful?” Oppose to asking yourself why you are a failure is a great way to challenge the negative language our inner critic uses.
Furthermore, when you list all the evidence, big and small, to support this idea we are actively looking for our achievements. Congratulating ourselves on these accomplishments subconsciously teaches our brain to think positively about ourselves and reinforces this belief.
2. Make Positive Affirmations part of your daily routine
Positive affirmations are a meaningful way to transform our inner and worldview. Incorporating two or three positive and sincere statements into our routine can help foster resilience and build our self-confidence.
The most effective affirmations focus on what you want, rather than what you are trying to avoid.
For example ‘I am a confident person’ instead of ‘I want to be more confident.’ If you find yourself thinking ‘I am not…’ stop and think about having you can express yourself more positively.
3. Set yourself up to win
A lot of people who struggle with self-confidence tend to set themselves large and seemingly unattainable goals. By breaking these down into smaller, more manageable goals you are able to set yourself up to win.
Break-down big-picture goals into smaller tasks help you create structure and it also gives you time to focus on the ‘did-it’ list as well as your ‘to-do’ list. By reflecting on these milestones you are able to feel more confident in your abilities and skills.
4. Take time to care for yourself
Self-confidence is often a result of good physical, emotional and social health. It is difficult to feel good about ourselves and confidence in our abilities when we are isolated or dislike our physical appearance.
Making time to cultivate healthy routines like exercising and good eating and sleeping habits is an important step in feeling better about ourselves. Additionally, it’s important to learn to say ‘no’ and care for our mental health by fostering clear boundaries in our everyday life.
Build your confidence by looking after yourself first and creating time to care for yourself. Self-care is never selfish, in fact, when we feel good about ourselves we have more time to care for others.
5. Help someone else
Sometimes the best way to help ourselves is to help someone else. It enables us to forget about our own insecurities and feels grateful for what we do have.
Volunteering to help another person through mentoring or practically assisting or teaching another will help you see your own strength, allowing your self-confidence to grow organically in the process.
Self-confidence is a skill that requires ongoing attention.
By incorporating these simple and positive steps into your daily routine you can reframe the way you look at yourself and your goals, which will ultimately help you lead a more fulfilling, successful and confident life.
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