We often hear people claim that they “don’t believe in having regrets”. Yet, whether they care to admit it or not, absolutely everyone has to deal with regrets at various points in their lives. Regrets come in an infinite number of shapes and sizes, from minor ones, like making an error at work, to big, life-changing regrets - such as not taking a job, or moving somewhere new, or ending a relationship.
When things don’t work out or go catastrophically wrong because of our own decisions, actions, or lack thereof, regret is an instinctive, human reaction – and often a painful one to endure. For a short period however, it’s actually pretty useful. Regret is a necessary and important tool for personal growth, because it teaches us to avoid the same mistakes in the future. Long-term however, regrets can eat away at us – to the point of anxiety, depression, and obsession.
When regrets become that severe, they’re often accompanied with intense feelings of loss, grief, denial, remorse, or sorrow. At worst, those regrets can hinder our ability to be happy in the present, because our focus is fixed so firmly on the past. So, it’s vital to move on from them and channel that energy into the future instead.
But how do we go about that?
Words to go by
Regrets are a perfectly normal part of being human, and the more you live the more you’ll experience them. As the saying goes: “Those who don’t make mistakes, don’t make anything”. Just don’t give your regrets the chance to become all-consuming. If used productively, you’ll be a better, more positive person for experiencing them.
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