Self-management of your emotional state is the act of taking responsibility for your emotions. It is a fact that your emotions can affect your decision-making process and behaviour. Therefore, the ability to be more aware of your emotions and actually taking responsibility for controlling them can help you to be more effective, productive and successful in keeping your goals in sight.
Here are three simple steps to help shift your emotional state:
Self-control is the ability to refrain from knee-jerk reactions in response to your emptions. It is the ability to take a moment to think before you act so you can consider the best course of action. To make sure that what you are about to say / do is in the best interests of yourself and those around you, try counting to ten or stepping out of the room for a breather when you can feel yourself getting emotional.
Reframing helps you to alter your reaction to your emotions by changing your self-talk around a situation. When you have a strong emotional reaction to something, without realising it you could be flippantly releasing some strong negative self-talk with that.
Counterproductive things like “No one cares what I think around here”, “I can’t take anymore” or “I’m done trying, they can work it out for themselves”.
These types of statement aren’t helpful and if you allow these emotional reactions to drive your behaviour you would become defeated, angry, and potentially quit or damage relationships. Reframing will lead to productive action instead of just negative self-talk. For example, “My ideas are sometimes overlooked, perhaps I can get some feedback on the last one” or “I need a break so my frustration doesn’t get the better of me”.
Another way to enhance your self-control is to reflect on what makes you feel out of control in the first place. Some research has found that emotional reactions stem from fear or desire. Your strong emotional reaction is likely to be at tipping point because a fear or desire you have is manifesting your emotional state. When you understand the fear or desire driving your strong emotional reaction then you can reflect and step back to assess your options.
For example, a fear of failure and a desire for success is a common state. If your desire for success is threatened, this awakens your fear of failure. Those are 2 separate drivers affecting your core values so, off course it’s natural for you to react to these threats, right? When you find yourself in this situation ask yourself: Is it really a threat? Could I be over-reacting? Is the severity of my reaction truly warranted? What action would be best in this situation?
If you feel that Coaching could be a potential full or part time opportunity for you, or if you would just like to know a little more about what Coaching is and how it can benefit you and the lives of others, please contact our Specialist Course Advisor, Jamil on 0208 996 4830 or email: Jamil@the-coaching-academy.com
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My journey to becoming a qualified coach with The Coaching Academy may be slightly unusual as I am the CEO of an accountancy practice, Sleigh & Story, employing 10 people in the UK and about to double that overseas. I started my business in my back bedroom 12 years ago with no clients. I now have over 400 clients and have an annual turnover of more than half a million pounds with six figure earnings.
It was one day in late 2015, when I had a moment of realisation: even though, through my role as a manager, I had spent lots of time and energy encouraging others to develop themselves, my own development had been static for too long. In essence, I was not acting on my own advice. It was at this point that I decided that I needed to move forward, and that it was finally time to address my own personal development!